We knew Jennifer Lopez’s abs game was next level, but wow. J.Lo made our jaws drop once again as she rocked a crop top for Self Magazine’s January 2015 issue.

In addition to posing for the sexy spread, Lopez chatted with the magazine about breaking the mold as a 45-year-old woman in the dating pool.

“All the old clichés about women need to be undone. Enough already. We’re in the other position now. We are desirable older, we can date younger guys and it’s not this big taboo. Men have been doing this for years, and it’s no big deal.”

Lopez has been romantically linked to younger guys since her split with Marc Anthony in 2011. Her most recent rumored beau, “Dancing With The Stars” pro Maksim Chmerkovskiy is 34 years old, and her ex-boyfriend Casper Smart is 18 years younger than her.

The mother of two spoke candidly about how she copes with her highly publicized relationships and breakups. She told Self:

“When you have that much pain, you have to anesthetize yourself in some ways. People do different things. Some go out and party and sleep around, but that’s just not my way. I found the comfort in someone else. That’s called being a love addict,” she said.

But learning to love herself was her way of breaking that habit, she said.

“When I face myself, I go, ‘You have a a fear of really being on your own. So you know what? That’s what we’re gonna do right now.’ But it took me years to get there. So first it was learning to love myself. And then it was about facing my fears.”